Toxic startup manager becomes direct report of employee they used to victimize 15 years prior: 'Karma really is a boomerang'

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The toxic startup manager who made my life horrible 15 years ago just became my direct report

Karma really is a boomerang. The absolute tyrant who made my life h I at a toxic startup 5 years ago just got placed on my team as my direct report.
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Back then, Greg ruled through fear, manufactured urgency, and mandatory 14-hour days. He took credit for my code, pinged me at midnight, and gaslit anyone who pushed back. I left completely burned out, eventually clawing my way up to a Senior Engg Manager role at a solid MNC where work-life balance is actually respected.
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Fast forward to last Wednesday. Upper management shuffled a new senior hire onto my engineering squad to help with headcount. When he logged into our morning standup and saw my face on the screen, the color completely drained out of him. Pure, unadulterated deer-in-the- headlights terror.
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The man who used to hover over my desk and threaten to dock my pay for taking a lunch break now has to message me on Teams for PTO approval. Part of me wants to take the high road and k I him with boring, flawless professional grace. But another part of me is staring at our massive, tedious documentation backlog and smiling a little too wide.
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What would you do in my shoes? How do you manage your former workplace ab er without turning into the monster he used to be?
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Commenters gave their ideas on how to move forward.

Time-Development-860 "Good to see you, I hope you enjoy your time here as much as I have" dont become him but definitely give him the slag work to catch yall up.
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speed-charge Treat him well as a subordinate as you should but be sure to be clear if he is ever considered for promotion to whoever you have to make this clear to that he cannot be trusted with power over others.
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pre_revolutionary_1 The thing that stands out to me the most is how you weren't even a factor in the hiring process.
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firehmre OP Yea, it was a surprise for me. When he was inducted i was on leave and my skip decided to put him in my team
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TheMaStif Talk about company culture during your meetings "Take your time with the project and do good work. I'm not the kind of guy who would pressure you with manufactured urgency and create a toxic work environment. I have had too many jobs with horrible bosses like that, and I don't want to create that culture."
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vtopping Well if your job has required OT or holidays that require working. I know who is working every single one. Lol
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Maffers The first thing you should do is go request a meeting with your upper management and HR and disclose the fact that you have had dealings with him before where he was your manager and the issues around it. Tell them you're happy to work with him and will encourage him the best you can, but you are worried that there may be friction given your history.
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Then treat him no different to anyone else. Make sure all requests to him are in polite, friendly and most importantly documented/backed up.
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Rizzy_B_317 Revenge is a dish best served cold. You don't have to f this person over, but if you can needle them without implicating yourself, you should definitely do so at every opportunity. Actions have consequences, do not stand in the way of him. getting his.
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PassionGlobal Stay professional. Karma has already dealt him his FU by making him your subordinate. If you go down that path, you'll f your career just like he did his.
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jOezonelayer Verbally treat him the same as everyone else, but every time you talk to him in person, look at him like you both know you own him. As for work assignments, bury him in documentation and anything else nobody else wants to do.
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I would also talk to your manager about it, but make sure theyre aware hes completely incapable of ever managing people.
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Akulatraxus Just be a good manager. Watch him, make sure he does not ab e anyone else. Make it clear to others in management he cannot be trusted with any sort of power. Just be honest and look out for your team. He will either grow as a person or slip up and get fired. Win/win.
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